At my home pista I am actually not interested about a one night tanda. I am much more interested about long term dance relationships.
Sometimes it takes many months to establish a new relationship because there is several things we need to know about each others before coming to a mutual understanding and dancing. Does she have her own musicality? Do we share the same musicality? Are we dancing well together? Can we talk about other things than tango? Her boyfriend, does he accept me? and so on. . . .
So sometimes I just sit and watch the dancers even when the music is wonderful!